As a professional Tarot reader, I often get questions about love and relationships from my clients. But how can we formulate the best, most effective, in depth questions to ask the Tarot about love?
This post will teach you how to get the most out of your love Tarot readings and how to interpret the cards for relationship questions (through case studies!). You’ll also walk away with 40 love questions to ask the Tarot plus a 7-card love energy spread.
Let’s get started.
Formulating Love Questions: super quick guide
My method for formulating love questions to ask the Tarot — really, any kind of questions to ask the Tarot — is laid out in detail here: 20 Insightful Questions. If you don’t have time to go read that post, let’s recap quickly:
- Avoid asking yes/no questions. The Tarot wants to give you complex, interesting answers to your questions. Yes/no questions are better suited for a tool like a pendulum.
- Avoid questions that try to manipulate or control your partner, such as: “How can I get my ex back?”
- Focus on questions that start with how and why. For example: “How can I attract my true love?” or “Why did I attract my last partner?”
40 love & relationship questions
- How can I attract the best partner for me right now?
- What can I do to align myself with the energy of love?
- What are my current beliefs about love?
- Am I keeping my heart closed? If so, how can I open it?
- Is there a past wound or heartbreak I still need to heal? How can I do this?
- How can I trust in other people more?
- How can I trust in the Universe’s abundance for me, including a loving partner and a fulfilling relationship?
- What has been my relationship pattern in the past?
- How can I release the unhelpful parts of this pattern and attract a partner who is aligned with me?
- What do I need to know about this new potential partner?
- How is it best for me to proceed with my new partner?
- How can I communicate better with my partner?
- What positive qualities does my partner bring to our relationship?
- What negative qualities does my partner bring to the relationship?
- What positive qualities do I bring to our relationship?
- What negative qualities do I bring to the relationship?
- How can we be mindful of each other’s negative (or not-so-ideal) qualities?
- How can my partner and I help each other grow?
- What’s my relationship blindspot right now?
- What did I learn about love and relationships from my family?
- What did I learn about love and relationships from society?
- What did I learn about love and relationships from pop culture?
- How are my learned beliefs about love holding me back or limiting me?
- How do my Spirit Guides want me to understand love?
- How do my Spirit Guides want me to act in my relationships?
- Do I follow my intuition when it comes to love? If not, how can I do this more?
- Do I trust my own instincts when it comes to new partners? If not, why not?
- What do I fear would happen if I never had a long-term relationship?
- What do I fear would happen if I never got married?
- What do I fear would happen if I DID get married? (Sometimes the fear works that way, too!)
- Do I fear losing my freedom or independence?
- Why am I still attracting unavailable partners?
- What do I fear would happen if I attracted a fully available, emotionally present partner?
- Why did my relationship fall apart?
- What did this past relationship teach me? Did I learn the lesson?
- What’s the best way for me to end this relationship?
- How can I let go of my ex emotionally?
- How can I become a better co-parent with my ex?
- What do I need to do (or focus on) before moving into my next relationship?
- How can I open myself to love again after heartbreak?
The Tarot on Love: Case Studies
Interpreting the Tarot specifically to answer love and relationship questions takes skill and practice. It sometimes requires us to move beyond traditional book meanings and to read the cards more intuitively.
The following case studies illustrate how we can read Tarot cards to answer questions regarding love. Please note that none of these meanings are fixed, and there are infinite ways of reading the same card for the same question. The key is to follow your intuition and instinct when you interpret your cards.
Case Study #1: The Emperor
Let’s say you’ve asked a question about a potential partner. You want to know if this man (just as an example, let’s go with a male partner) is trustworthy and aligned with where you currently are. Is he going to stick around? Is he emotionally stable?
You shuffle your Tarot deck, get in touch with your heart and intuition, take a deep breath, and you pull The Emperor.
How do you interpret this card?
First of all, since The Emperor is all about stability and solidity — notice that heavy throne made of immovable stone — this card is letting you know that your potential partner is pretty reliable, trustworthy, and follows through on his word.
This card is also telling you that your new partner is probably very organized and follows a set structure or routine every day. In fact, The Emperor might be trying to warn you a little bit: this new partner might be too organized and structured, to the point of being rigid.
The ram is the Emperor’s spirit animal (notice all the ram heads on his throne). Rams are notoriously stubborn. So it might not be easy to get this person to compromise with you or think about things from your perspective.
Is this person emotionally stable? Probably yes! Can you rely on this person to keep his word? Yes! Is he going to be super adventurous and willing to share his feelings openly? Probably not. So it’s just a matter of the kind of partner you want to share your life with.
If you’ve been craving stability, this Emperor guy is perfect. If you’ve been craving a sense of adventure and a very passionate relationship, he might not be able to tick those boxes for you.
Case Study #2: Six of Swords
Now for a different question. Let’s say you ask: is my current relationship good for me?
You get in touch with your heart, breathe deeply, and pull the Six of Swords. How does this card answer your question?
The Six of Swords is a card of journeys, both symbolic and geographic. You can see how the figures are traveling on a boat from one place to another.
Notice the water to the left of the boat. It looks turbulent, wavy, choppy. Rough waters. This is the state of your current relationship. Since Swords are all about the mind and our thoughts, the card also indicates that this relationship is causing you worry, stress, or anxiety. You’re staying up at night thinking about it. You’re always wondering where it’s going to go next. N
ow, notice the water to the right of the boat. It’s peaceful, calm, serene. A more tranquil state of being. The Six of Swords suggests that your current relationship might be causing you more anxiety and uncertainty than fulfillment. It might be time to pack up your Swords and move into a more grounded and peaceful situation.
Case Study #3: Six of Pentacles
Another question about love you might ask the Tarot is: what can I do to attract the right partner?
Let’s say you’ve asked this question and pulled the Six of Pentacles. How can you interpret this?
The figure on this card is holding up a scale. The Six of Pentacles is all about balance, especially a balance between giving and receiving. The man on the card helps those who are less fortunate, because he knows that one day he may need their help as well.
By sharing his own abundance, the man opens himself up to even greater riches (both materially and spiritually).
One helpful way of reading this card would be to consider the balance between giving and receiving in your past relationships. Have you always been the one to give more? Or are you typically the one who receives more?
Before moving into your next relationship, the Six of Pentacles is asking you to take stock of your emotional and spiritual “bank account.” Do you nurture yourself on a daily basis? Or do you place all of your focus, attention, and caregiving on your partner?
This card wants you to have a more balanced, mutually beneficial, equal relationship with a partner who treats you respectfully and can give you what you need. To get there, you have to work on your own balance first.
Tarot Love Spread
Use this spread to explore your own love energy right now. Pull one card for each position (1-7). If a card doesn’t seem to make sense, pull a second card as a clarifier for the same question.
- PAST: What did my past relationships teach me? Did I learn those lessons?
- PRESENT: What can I do today to align with the energy of love?
- FUTURE: What does my future ideal relationship look like?
- PATTERNS: What types of partners have I attracted in the past, and why?
- INFLUENCES: How has my parents’ relationship influenced my choices in love?
- HEALING: How can I heal any past heartbreak?
- OPENING: How can I open up my heart chakra and become receptive to love?
*Illustrations from the Rider-Waite Tarot Deck, known also as the Rider Tarot and the Waite Tarot, reproduced by permission of U.S. Games Systems, Inc., Stamford, CT 06902. c. 1971 by U.S. Games Systems, Inc. All rights reserved. The Rider-Waite Tarot deck is a registered trademark of U.S. Games Systems, Inc.