The Weekly Seeker #14
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One of the ways in which you might disempower yourself is by apologizing for your very existence.
Do you ever catch yourself doing that?
Someone bumps into you at the grocery store, and instinctively you say, “oh so sorry!” (even though THEY bumped into YOU – not the other way around).
Or as you’re trying to decide what to do with your partner or a friend, you suggest a movie you really want to see, and then you follow up with “if that’s ok with you??” or “but we don’t have to do what I like!” or “unless you wanna see something else??”
(Same thing goes for suggesting a particular meal or restaurant you really like – then tentatively following up with, “if that’s ok??”)
Many of us – me included – have been unconsciously conditioned to shrink ourselves in these ways, whether by family, society, schooling, or religion.
We’ve been conditioned to apologize for our desires, for our likes and dislikes, for taking up space, for being.
Perhaps for you this is an inherited family pattern – typically from the maternal line, since apologizing for existing is a way in which women have been taught to disempower themselves since basically the beginning of time.
I wanted to bring up this topic because I recently made the conscious choice that, in 2024 and beyond, I’m not going to apologize for existing anymore.
I’m not going to apologize for taking up space.
I’m not going to apologize for liking what I like (and not liking what I don’t like).
I’m not going to apologize for being loud, or being “too quiet”, or being “weird”, or being an introvert, or being MYSELF in any other way.
I’m not going to apologize for my desires.
I’m not going to apologize for being abundant.
I’m not going to apologize for needing help when I need help.
I’m not going to apologize for living my life in the most aligned, authentic, joyful, peaceful way that makes sense to ME.
So I’m going to be mindful of how I’m using language – especially how I use language that disempowers me.
Like following up a non-negotiable request or boundary with “… if that’s ok??” (which really waters it down, doesn’t it?)
Or making my energy wishy-washy by suggesting something I really want to do and then going, “unless you’d rather do something else!”
Or by saying “I’m sorry” for ANY situation where there’s no genuine need for me to apologize.
As we become more awake and conscious beings, we have to mind our language – not just our inner dialogue, what we say to ourselves inside our own heads, but also the words we allow to come out of our mouths.
The language we use is a direct reflection of our level of consciousness, self-worth, self-love, and how much we value and respect ourselves – as well as the people and environment around us.
So, from this day forward, choose to quit apologizing for being YOU.
(You don’t have to ask for permission either.)
The world will benefit from your authenticity and freedom.
With love, cheering you on,